Many women and men have these same assumptions that because they have been through such hard times in dating that all men and women are the same. This thinking process is exactly why so many individuals are not married or in committed relationships today. I would like to think of it as an individual scorned and now they are sabotaging themselves when it comes to finding true love. I cannot understand why so many individuals today feel that because they have had a bad experience with relationships that it means that there’s no one for them to love.
To be honest ladies, a man is going to be a man and a woman a woman; have you ever notice no matter what a man or woman does they do it because it’s in their nature. I say this because so many women think because their men does not pay attention to everything they do that they are with the wrong man, but every man has his ways and you will find this out more while you continue through life. Women complain that men seem to have a problem with the wandering eye, my question would be if a woman saw an attractive man wouldn’t they look? It is completely normal to appreciate what God put on this earth and it does not mean that your husband or wife wants to leave you for that person.
Let’s talk about the highly paid professional man who could live among the most successful individuals, they will still find themselves committing the sin of lust once they see a nice figure around. Most women believed that if I keep my man from going to some places I do not have to worry. To be honest, it’s not true! Most of these women with the sexy figures and pretty faces are usually working with these men or they are seen sometimes while he is riding home from his journey to or from work. If you feel you need to protect your man from places, it’s because he may not be that faithful man you would want him to be, or maybe you have a problem with trust from prior life experiences.
My point to all of this is a man will surprise you just as a woman will, most men and women would be amazed with the conversations your partner has with their friends or co-workers when you are not around. I tend to see often women and men angered after finding out things that were done inappropriately, which eventually was relayed back by a good friend of what their partner got caught doing the night before. This is why it’s extremely important to make sure before rushing into dating or marriage that you truly learn your partner. If you take your time, you may find that the person you originally thought was right for you are not. One thing I hate to see is someone who is hurt and stressed from bad relationships. If we learn how to be patient and focus on what we need in our lives before anyone else is a part of it, I honestly can say that we would most definitely be better off when finding love.
After talking to many couples about relationships, I found that there were plenty of couples who shared the story of moving fast into a marriage without knowing who they were marrying. This situation is quite disturbing to talk about especially when you learn that most couples who were married, remained in a terrible marriage so they would not be an embarrassment to the family. This is always a big problem when mom and dad has so much input in your marriage that you feel the decisions you make are based on them. For years daters have had the problems of going and telling their parents everything that goes on between them and their partners.
In result, they wonder why their relationships did not work out. It is none of anyone’s business of who says what in a marriage unless you are being abused. I just hate when couples fight and they find a need to run and tell the parents about their personal problems, this goes to show that they are spoiled, still wants the approval of mom and dad, and cannot seem to grow up and be a man or a woman in their own household. When you are dating or married, your personal business stays with you and your partner. Work on handling your own issues, keep others out, and then you may see that you will have a healthier relationship.
For those of you out there who have found such strong interest in the man or women who cannot seem to keep their hands off social media you should take this message to warning. Beware! May cause heartache and pain; There are many men and women who spend most of their time on social media. One of the most popular sites on social media that seem to have broken up so many marriages would be “Face book” What was for reuniting with friends from school and finding relatives became a curse to many in homes all over the world.
This type of social media displays men and women young and old to display their bodies Inappropriately and connect through very personal conversations. Most couples argue daily because they find one or the other on social networking exposing themselves are viewing photos of other half naked men and women. Keep in mind that when these couples hooked up with each other, most of the time it came from social media. If a man or a woman spend more time on social networking then with you, you should be concerned; there is a 50% chance that the more someone is on social media, they will lust, cheat, and possibly divorce you later on in the future.
In my opinion, why would you want to locate someone from the opposite sex to check on their status? I say this especially if they are not your relatives, a business partner, or an old best friend. Most would agree that those who engage on social networking sites are looking for something other than family. What becomes an innocent trial of searching friends and family turns into much worse once words are exchanged to a stranger that your mate may find appealing. I mention to couples quite often if you’re married it is not a good idea to join social networking sites like this unless you are promoting your business.
When you join such sites you are only setting yourself up for disappointment. Being that we are only human there’s some things we must do to prevent us from becoming divorced from our mate. There have been times I’ve seen couples out and about enjoying each others company, and the husband or wife cannot stop looking through his or her phone as they engage looking at social media comments. Under their breath the other party sigh’s as they sit at a table wondering when I will ever get time with my partner. This is a sad situation and something should be done about this behavior, what is worse is you can be in the same house and your husband or wife sits hours on a computer while their partner sits patiently to spend quality time with their mate.
Husbands are up late till 3 am sometimes while wives tucked away in their beds sound asleep as they prowl the engine looking to commit infidelity. Couples who come for counseling seeking to get help because they cannot communicate. All I have to say is “back away from the computer!” Then you will realize how much you are missing. It reached a point that couples would argue just because their wives or husbands said they spend too much time on the computer. In addition, ultimately lead to fights and later resulted in divorce. Sometimes an individual could be so blind that they do not realize that while they are on social media their family members need them the most. My advice is to please beware of this man or woman. I do believe that if they spend so much time on social media that they are not concerned of the well being of their relationship.
There were men and women who admitted that they needed help and that they had an addiction. They mentioned that they could not seem to stay off social media, and that social media was a major part of their lives. It is sad because just as social media is such a big part of an individual’s life. They have the same problem when it comes to infidelity. Many women and men are heart broken in marriages and relationships because they felt the pain of unfaithful men or women. It sucks to see good women and men suffer with bad partners in their lives. I find that this is a disease that has killed our society and the good people we have left are giving up on true love.
Is it fair to say that some men and women do not know how to be good husbands and wives? Infidelity is one of the biggest diseases since HIV was around. I feel that we have so many couples who are so blind to the fact that you have and will be cheated on in relationships and marriages at some point of your lives. Is it fair to say that we do not have strong women and men around anymore?
It’s so hard to understand how men and women can be cheated on many times in one relationship and still believe that his or her spouse loves him or her. I believe that if you strike out once you may forgive and move past. The second time him or her cheats I could see maybe even another chance, but beyond three or four times! how could you feel that this is going to work?
Furthermore, how do you feel that the relationship is healthy for you? I feel like slapping a person sometimes who feel that they can work on a relationship that has been ruined from the beginning with infidelity. However, I also understand that we have feelings and our hearts keep us close to the person we fell in love with. There are individuals in our lives who have made a huge impact. I do believe that no matter how big of an impact that someone has left in our lives, we should be able to say we are worth more than gold and should not allow someone to destroy your heart and take away your joy.
In addition, I feel that they should not take away the motivation and trust for others who care about you that will allow you to find love again. I cannot say that when couples get married they will live happily ever after, my reasons are because marriage brings out more issues than dating. When you marry someone you are faced with being around that person for the rest of your life. There is no way to escape the mornings of waking up to bad breathe, looking at your mate without makeup and facing the other person who you are still angry with from last night. Don’t be fooled to think when you marry someone that you have no need to worry about what they may do. Marriage to me seems like a cover that makes it okay to have sex and live together. However, it’s not always this type of thing; there are couples today who have been married and continuing to go strong at this point of their lives, but that does not mean they did not have to go through turmoil to get to where they are today.