Claresa White

I have known Clarissa for several years mostly through social engagements and through a mutual friend. We dated a couple of times. When I first met Clarissa I found her to be charming , kind and somewhat alluring. When she smiles she can light up a room. At first she appeared to be quite self confident and very self conscious of her looks. Most women do! She is engaging and makes people feel comfortable and keeps her attention on her man. Yet I found as I got to know her more she tended to become possessive. One thing of note. Clarissa tries to overly impress people especially if other women are present. When she is not drinking her best qualities come out- kindness, caring, gentleness all great qualities in a woman. When she drinks alcohol her personality changes and unfortunately for her when in excess she lets down her guard and at times I have seen her become belligerent and nasty with others especially if there is a disagreement. 

I find Clarissa is constantly looking for affirmation that she is the most beautiful woman on earth and she wants to desired by men. Sometimes she mistakes making love and sex as a means of attracting a suitable mate. The truth is it is important to find out what qualities she is looking in a man first. Men- and I am one, know the difference between a woman who is willing to  provide sex easily and one who stands their ground on the principle of getting to know the man first. In my case the signal was loud and clear. Claire was quite prepared to have sex the first night without really knowing the man she was with. For a man this sends a clear message- easy pickings. No commitment just satisfaction. I admit this is selfishness on the man’s part plan and simply – gratification.

If I were to give Clarissa advise from a man’s point of view on finding a serious gentleman, someone to be loving and caring and committed , it is this. Love yourself; stop comparing yourself to other women; treat yourself and others with respect; stay away from places where cougars hide out and only drink in moderation. Show people your goodness. Stand up for your beliefs and principles. Show people empathy. And don’t worry or fret if some man rejects you because you did not put out.
Clarissa, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You are beautiful in many ways but show a man your inner beauty before showing him your outer beauty. Then you will have a good chance of winning him over

​Sincerely Loverboy23