I thought things would change after we got married but it seems like it got worst...im emotionally,physically, and mentally drained I don't have anymore fighting in me...im constantly getting accused of messing around and I'm not. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells since I have to be careful with what I say n do. I lost my Mom n I have no other support since I had to give up my friends n family for him. Everything I do is never right...I feel like I'm done and it's over especially when he physically abused n I ended up in emergency room and ended up with a concussion n neck injury. We have kids n he threatens he's going to take them away from me and I'll be left with noting since he makes more money than me. When we first met I was the one making more money than him n his family is accusing me of being with him just for his money. I don't know what happen to the guy I feel in love with I don't know this person anymore...I just don't feel the love anymore n he doesn't respect me either I thought things would change after we got married but it seems like it got worst...im emotionally,physically, and mentally drained I don't have anymore fighting in me...im constantly getting accused of messing around and I'm not. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells since I have to be careful with what I say n do. I lost my Mom n I have no other support since I had to give up my friends n family for him. Everything I do is never right...I feel like I'm done and it's over especially when he physically abused n I ended up in emergency room and ended up with a concussion n neck injury. We have kids n he threatens he's going to take them away from me and I'll be left with noting since he makes more money than me. When we first met I was the one making more money than him n his family is accusing me of being with him just for his money. I don't know what happen to the guy I feel in love with I don't know this person anymore...I just don't feel the love anymore n he doesn't respect me either
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Yes it happens! The women who are supposed to be your support system instead are the ones that are looking desperately for your downfalls. It is amazing how you can be brought up with close cousins, and learn from your aunts when you were a child, to later grow up and realize that even your very own mother may envy you and your success. I never thought we would see the day when the women in the family talks about their own children, nieces, or in-laws every single chance they get, just because in reality they are miserable with their own lives. This may be a hard pill to swallow but it is very true.
I have heard stories of college girls desperately trying to understand why their mom, aunt, or cousin seems to have such envy against them. It’s like they have to be a different person when they are around them. I have even heard many of these young girls mentioning how they rather not go home because of the high criticism they face from their family. It is sad but true! I mean why would anyone want to be around the hardcore group of miserable women who find nothing better to do with their lives but to be jealous of someone else.
Most of these women have a hard time dealing with their failed marriages, unproportioned bodies, resentment for not living, and the constant reminder that they failed in their life choices. Then they look at the child, niece, or in-law and see the remarkable things going on in their lives and realize that it is not them. Jealous Much! I would have to say yes; however, these jealous types should not blame these women for being on top of their game and living a life they never lived. Instead they should look up to them, ask for advice on how not to be a miserable, unaccomplished, and overly critical on others lives. Besides! How can anyone speak on someone’s life if they have not lived in their shoes?
They get mad turn up their lips because yes! The successful woman looks good, has all her teeth, nice body, hair, and a husband that loves her. It is only normal for the hater to have something to say. What really bothers me is when they want to tell their daughter, niece, or in-law what their husband should or could be doing better. I have to ask the question; are they still married? I do not think any advice should be given if the marriage that these successful women have is still maintaining longer than the women who are giving critical advice. You have the overly opinionated mom who cannot understand why she is alone, the aunt that does not know how to let the man find her, the cousin who swears that everything that has happened in their life is someone else fault, and the women who want to make the sexy little in-law feel she doesn’t fit because they are jealous of their looks and afraid that she will take their men.
So here’s the thing; to all you successful women that are dealing with the jealous women in your family. Stop caring about how they view you or what they may say to bring down your spirits. Know this! They would not talk unless you were doing something right. They will continue to be bitter as long as they have nothing better going on in their lives. They hate to see you thrive, and cringe at the success that you’ve gained without the constant help of them. They will be angered because you are sexy, smart, and have a husband who wants to come home to you at night. I find it disturbing that you women have to go through this; it seems that it happens to the free spirited, compassionate, and attractive ones. If I could change this for you I would but instead, I will write and let you know that you are not alone. There are many who face this same vice and everyday they wonder why they go through so much hell with their unhappy miserable family. In all, a woman is a woman and even if they birth you, may be a cousin, or an aunt they will carry the trait that every woman and man has and that is jealousy.
Hi my name is Sheryl, I am thinking about breaking up with my man Tony. Lately her has been getting on my nerves extra bad and I am just tired... It seems like everything he does urks my nerves.. Is there a easy way to let him know i'm done? We have been together for 10 years and pressures me to marry. I must admit that I am not in love with him... What should I do? How should I break the news to him? Oh and yes we have three kids together I worry he will be a dead beat dad when it comes to child support.
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Okay, My name is Sarah, I have posted this on many sites.... I felt like this would be a great place to put my own issues on . I just found this site today and I wanted to voice my concern... if there is anyone out there who has advice I really would appreciate it. Also I hope that Dr. J will also take the time to read... ok here it goes....
Every so often, I break out crying over this. I don't feel loved anymore. Ever since the blow up on Tuesday, he is barely speaking to me. He is abrupt when he does. He just hates me. He has no business, I did nothing wrong. The fight is over our daughter. She is 18 yrs old and mean and nasty. I mean, to an extreme. Academically, she was a top student graduating top of her class, National Merit, everything else. But emotionally, she is evil, mean, and nasty. She was evaluated and they say "Depressive Mood Disorder" but then it was added that there is a high chance it is bipolar disorder, but not sure of the cycling or not. However, her cruelty and nastiness goes beyond bipolar disorder. She gets violent. She is arrogant and feels entitled all the time. She has never had friends because she hates all girls. She rips in to them and tears them down. Last year, she ran away three times. But the way she ran away is what makes it seem more like mental illness than any sort of teen rebellion. She can be great and fine. Then other times, flip out and nasty. One time, she had called me from school upset over her SAT 2 score. Her SAT scores had been in the 700's but on the SAT 2 she got a 780 and a 580. The SAT 2 is needed for the more competitive schools such as Ivy League and others in that league. She had to sign on to her college board account to get them. Then she came home and was supposed to work on her application, they call it Common App now. You do it online. But she told my husband that I was withholding her scores and she had no idea what she had gotten. She started literally screaming and crying and cussing at me and pulling her hair out. She literally was grabbing at her hair and pulling it out. My husband brought her down the stairs and had her use his computer, trying to calm her down. But she said she had no way to get her scores. I said "she knows her scores and how to get them, she called me from school today after she signed on to college board and viewed them." At this, with her face red from raging, she ran out the front door. The ground was covered in ice and she was barefoot. She took off running and disappeared around the corner. That was last fall.
This fall, she is home. She never really completed the common app and just accepted at a local school that was below her abilities, because they gave her huge scholarships. But she got a nasty roommate who was violent and using drugs. She left the school (and we saw concrete evidence of what happened, so she was not lying). Other schools said if she did not matriculate, she could have her scholarship in full back at their schools. The other scholarships, except one, were not as good. So she left with the intent of going somewhere else in January.
But, she is being nasty and cruel again. It is not as bad so far as it was last year. But, she was calling me cuss words and tearing me down and calling me body gross (I am getting bigger with pregnancy) and left me in tears. Which I usually never cry over her nastiness as I am used to it, but I did this time, but out of her sight. My husband came down and told her to stop and she kept screaming at him that we were holding her prisoner and she just wants out and put up this act of begging to leave and us abusing her. He kept begging her to stay. I told my husband that he needs to deal with these issues and stop enabling her. I finally said, she is an adult. If she wants to take on adult responsibility to leave, then that is her choice, but stop begging her to stay. So, she suddenly took off, dashed to the door and out the door and around the corner. She had her shoes on. It was clear the dash out running away was planned that she put her shoes on before she ran. We do not wear shoes around our house. But, she did not take her purse or anything else.
So my husband became enraged at me. He says I should beg her to stay. No way! I am being abused by her and she is an adult! She was told a condition of staying here is not abusing anyone..oh. and no more running away. She has younger siblings who are seeing this and talking about it. This is very bad for everyone. He still maintains I should have done whatever it took to get her to stay. He is not holding her accountable at all.
I did eventually go get her back, but only because I found out she had gone to someone who was trying to steal her money. She did not have her ID but was trying to withdraw all the money from her bank account. After I got her back, she told us how this person was going to "protect" her and the person told her to take all the money out of the bank to protect it from me. My husband is STILL angry at me, and I have an abuser in my home abusing me emotionally and psychologically. So I am all alone here. He is putting her first, like he always does. I am tired of her being his golden child. Also..she is both of our child. I am not the step mother.
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